For Lewis on your 12th birthday

Dear Lewis,

I can’t quite believe that I am writing this, that you are now twelve and growing up so fast. These past twelve years have been such a rollercoaster for the two of us, so many highs and lows and yet you, my darling boy, have been the best thing to ever happen to us.

When I found out that I was pregnant with you, aged 23, so soon after losing our first baby, I was so nervous that the same would happen again. Despite having early scans and constant reassurance, those first twelve weeks felt like a lifetime. At the twelve week scan when we were told that you were growing strong and healthy, we finally allowed ourselves to relax. We were so wonderfully naïve back then and your pregnancy was the only one that I truly enjoyed.

At our twenty week scan we were told that you were a little boy and it was no surprise to me, I had known since day one. We immediately knew that your name would be Lewis and gave you the middle name Robert after your Dad, your Grandad and the generations before him.

I used to spend my days reading pregnancy magazines, going for a daily swim, eating turkey sandwiches stuffed with salt and vinegar crisps, wishing away the days until you would be here. We enjoyed countless shopping trips, relished in buying you the most gorgeous little outfits, preparing your room and imagining what you would be like. I loved those days, the anticipation, the expectation, the unknown adventure of what lay ahead.

Three days before your due date, on Friday the 16th April 2004, when I woke with niggling stomach pains I wasn’t sure whether to be alarmed or not. By lunch time, as I lay in the bath, the hot water easing the cramps, I asked myself if this could be it, that you might just be on your way. And by mid afternoon I was certain that you were coming, and we made our way to the hospital, giddy with excitement that the next time we returned home we would be a family of three.

You were in such a rush to arrive, the only time in your life that you have ever been in a hurry, and came screaming into the world at 16.06 weighing 6lb 5.5oz. And you were completely and utterly perfect. I will never forget the moment that they lifted you onto my chest and I looked into your eyes and knew that I would love you forever.


When you were just a few days old your Dad and I took you to the supermarket, keen to show you off and stock up on some more little outfits for you, and we beamed with pride as others admired you down every aisle we turned. As we were leaving an old woman approached us, admired you and stroked your little face, and she looked at us with an eery smile and she told us, “This little boy is special. He has a gift and will achieve great things. Mark my words!”. And we had smiled nervously until we had got into the car and there we mocked her, repeating her words in witch like voices as though we had been casting a magic spell, laughing ourselves stupid at the hilarity of it all. Little did we know how right she would be.

Because you are special, and not just in the way that all children are to their parents. You are special in ways that I could never put into words, in ways that are impossible to express, or even pinpoint exactly what it is that makes you so special. Throughout my battle with post natal depression, it was you who saved me, pulled me back from the brink every time with your soulful brown eyes and the way that you would nuzzle into my chest and remind me that you needed me, that I had to get better for you. Through our heart ache over losing Joseph it was you who kept me alive, who gave me a reason to live, a glimmer of hope that we would find a way to be happy amongst so much sadness. With every baby we lost, every battle we fought, there was always you, holding my hand, stroking my cheek, showering me with kisses, telling me that you loved me and always with that look in your eyes that told me, “Keep going”, “You can do this!”. And you pulled me through, time and time again.


When you were just four years old and your Dad and I split, it was just me and you and our lives were very different. And again, you were a pillar of strength to me through that time and you grew up very quickly. It was such a difficult time for both of us and yet during those days we made so many memories together just you and I. We enjoyed days out, holidays away, trips to the beach, out to eat, hours playing power rangers and transformers and watching WWE on repeat And I loved that time with you, however sad it was at times, and our relationship changed in a way that made us closer than I could ever have imagined. We were a team, you and I, “Me and you against the world!”, we used to say.

So when Gaz came along it was difficult for you at first, you needed constant reassurance that he wasn’t going to take your place or that I would love you any less. And yet in no time at all you allowed Gaz into your life, and ultimately into your heart. And the two of you were, and still are, so alike, and the bond you share is so special. I always say that it wasn’t Eva who made Gaz a Daddy, it was you.


With the arrival of a baby sister you were ecstatic, the proudest big brother that ever there was. You had waited for such a long time and yet here she was, and ours to keep. And I loved you even more for how much you loved her, the two of you became my whole world.

On our wedding day you stood beside Gaz at the end of the aisle and as I walked down there it was your eyes that I met first, the look of pure love and happiness on your face, the understanding that we were to become a family again, that finally we had found our happy ever after. Your reading at the wedding stole the show and I have never been as proud of you as I was right there and then, watching my baby boy on one of the happiest days of my life.

With the arrival of Megan and Harry you took it all in your stride. You adored your siblings and the only ever sadness was that you didn’t have Joseph here to share that with you. I feel your loss every single day, along with my own, and I wish more than anything that you had him here to grow up with. He would have loved you so much I’m sure, and you would have been the best of friends I have no doubt.

And yet here we are, and being eleven has been a difficult year for you, leaving primary school and starting high school, so many adjustments, new friendships and changes for us all. It was very hard for me too, to allow you the freedom to grow, to find a way to suppress my own worries and fears, and yet we found a way to adjust and in the same way that you have done your whole life, you sailed through the transition as though it was no big deal at all.

And now you are twelve and I still can’t believe where the years have gone. We have survived the worst of times and lived through the best of times. You have endured the loss of your brother, of family members and life as you know it. You have lived through a divorce, three marriages, four different homes, four schools, four new siblings, and I have no doubt that all of that has made you the person you are today. I know you hate me making a fuss, apparently its “not cool” but I am so, so very proud of you Lewis. You are so handsome, on the inside and out. You are funny, you are kind, smart, intuitive and a whole host of adjectives too many to mention. You have made my life so wonderful, through all of the heart ache there was always you. I am so honoured to be your Mum, so proud to watch you grow and so happy that you came into our lives.


 Happy 12th birthday Lewis, to the most special little boy who first made me a mummy. xxx


Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday
Reflections From Me
Over the Moon Link Party
My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows
New Mummy Blog
Cuddle Fairy
Super Busy MUm
My Petit Canard

71 thoughts on “For Lewis on your 12th birthday

  1. I’m probably becoming a boring broken record saying this but I honestly don’t understand how you do it. (Funnily enough I just caught the first paragraph of your Why Do I Blog post which I’ll read tomorrow as it’s now almost 4am eek.) You could write hundreds of heartfelt posts and they’ll never be tired and I’ll never tire of them. As per usual, you had me almost gripping my laptop just trying to hold myself together. The emotion just pours out of this post. What a gorgeous boy he is, what a rollercoaster life you’ve had and yet you keep smiling, and how lucky you are to have each other. My heart just aches at the thought of him losing his brother. That just breaks me. But that smile…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Aww thank you so much. That’s just so lovely of you to say! He is my absolute world, I think going through everything we have gone through together has made us closer than I ever imagined. I just pray that as he approaches his teens that we keep that bond and most importantly the communication!! Thank you so much for reading, I hope you got some sleep!!! Xxx


    1. Thank you! Ahh I honestly never believed that I would meet anyone after my husband and I split. We had been together for 11 years and at 29 I felt as though I had missed my opportunity. I actually went to school with my husband and we had a similar social circle, so when he asked me on a date I agreed and within a year we were married with a baby and another on the way, swiftly followed by another!! I totally believe in a happy ending, you will find yours, perhaps he is already right under your nose. xxx


  2. Oh my eyes are full of tears and i think my heart stopped momentarily – just a beautiful touching post and you really do write so beautifully. What a wonderful keepsake for Lewis – if he dosn’t appreciate it now he really will when he is older. He is so very lucky to have you as a mummy – you make the most brilliant team. Beautiful photos and a beautiful post #KCACOL

    Liked by 1 person

  3. What an absolutely beautiful post and fabulous pictures. He will be very, very proud when he reads this and realises just how much he means to his mum. A wonderful tribute. The comment from the old lady reminded me of when I was tiny and a man said to my parents ‘how lucky are you?’ when he saw me and it nearly made my Mother cry. #KCACOLS

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you! He’s an amazing (not so little) boy and my absolute world. The best part is that he has no idea how wonderful he is, I think that makes him all the more special! xx


  4. This is such a lovely post! What a handsome young man you have – so many lovely pictures. You write so beautifully, I’m sure even if it’s a bit uncool to him now, he’ll treasure this in a few years (and I’m sure that secretly he thinks it’s the coolest thing ever even now!) #KCACOLS

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Aww thanks lovely. I haven’t always been the best Mummy, I will feel guilty of that forever, but I have always been the best Mummy that I could possibly be during the dark times that we went through. And actually, Lewis has turned out to be the most rounded, confident, thoughtful person I could have hoped he would be! Thanks for reading! xxx


  5. what a lucky mummy you are, he sounds like an amazing son, and he is so lucky to have a mother like you who has taught him love, compassion and strength. You are beautiful family and I am s moved by this post. My daughter will be 12 in May, where does it go? Our children really are such a blessing! I loved all the photos too!! #mg

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much. Twelve feels so grown up doesn’t it? The last birthday before the teen years, and then that’s where the fun starts…!! Thanks for hosting! xxx


  6. Oh I don’t think I need to say that this brought a tear to my eye! Beautiful. What a wonderful son you have, your happiness and closeness shows in all those beautiful pictures. And you look alike! I especially love the one with Eva in hospital, the joy just radiates from you both. Happy birthday to Lewis! #fartglitter

    Liked by 1 person

  7. He sounds like a very special young man and an excellent big brother. I have a suspicion that he and I share a birthday from this post. I couldn’t think of anyone better to share it with. Happy belated birthday Lewis

    Liked by 1 person

  8. Another lovely post, and beautiful pictures. I feel as if I know you just from reading your posts-they are all so emotional and heartfelt. #theBabyFormula

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Ahh thank you!! That’s such a lovely thing to say. I feel like that about a lot of the blogs I read, you really build up a relationship with some don’t you? Thanks for reading. Xx


  9. Such a lovely tribute. He will cherish it forever. Thank you so much for linking at #overthemoon! I look forward to seeing what you share every week. Please come back for #WonderfulWednesday or #ThursdayFavoriteThings. Don’t forget to comment your link #’s so I can be sure to visit. Pinned and shared.

    Liked by 1 person

  10. Such a proud Mummy! He’s a credit to you. Such a lovely smile! What a beautiful post and I love the idea of writing a birthday letter to your child. #Bloggerclubuk

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you. I love the idea that they will have all of these to look back on when they are old enough to appreciate them. Right now Lewis hates the gushy emotional stuff, but one day he will be glad of it I’m sure. xx

      Liked by 1 person

  11. Such a lovely post Laura for Lewis, I am crying reading it, whilst my little one plays around at my feet. Lewis is such a lucky boy to have a Mum like you, Gaz and four other children in his life. I’m so pleased that you found happiness after such a difficult time, I can’t imagine what that must have felt like. I wish Lewis a wonderful and happy 12th birthday, and I hope he keeps bringing all the happiness that you deserve. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back next Sunday. Claire x

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Ahh thank you so much Claire, sorry I made you cry though! He is such a lovely boy, I am the lucky one to have him, I just hope that he continues to make us proud as he hits his teenage years…!! See you next Sunday! xx

      Liked by 1 person

  12. What a lovely post Laura. You both have been through a lot and your closeness shows in your words. How creepy of the old lady, but it takes all sorts to make a world.

    I am sure Lewis will continue to be a loving son and big brother, because that’s the way he is.


    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Debs, he really is growing to be such a lovely young man, I do hope that it lasts. The two of us are still so close, I hope we always will be, even though it’s soooo uncool to hang out with your Mum!! Xx


  13. What a heartfelt & touching post – you yet again have me in tears reading your words. It really is amazing the instant love when your first baby is born. Lewis does sound so special & sounds like you two have a wonderful relationship. Happy birthday Lewis! Thank you for sharing with #bloggerclubuk x

    Liked by 1 person

  14. What a gorgeous letter! I love the way you write – the emotions, the real-ness, the warmth…I had to stop myself from tearing. It is indeed amazing to see how your child has done so well and how he’s come out stronger and most of all, how he is your rock. He is a testament to your love and you as a parent. Happy Birthday Lewis! I am sure you will have another amazing year ahead. #MarvMondays.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Aww thanks lovely, it’s so lovely that others can see what an amazing young man he is becoming. He really has been through so much and yet he always uses his experiences as a positive and I know that one day he is going to make someone the most wonderful husband and an amazing Daddy. Not for a long, long, LONG time yet though!!!! xxx


  15. What a beautiful boy and relationship you have with him. A first born is always special, but it sounds like you have a bond and relationship that is so strong and beautiful. Such a lovely post to share, you have obviously done a fantastic job as a mummy raising him into a boy that you can be proud of 🙂 Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you. I am so super proud of him, I always feel like I’m gushing about him and in all honesty, he isn’t perfect, his bedroom is a disgrace, but he’s been through such a lot and we’ve survived it together. Thank you for hosting. Xx


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s